Being a housewife means going over a daily routine with sometimes less excitement and personal growth. Especially for career-oriented women who believe that they deserve more than just staying at home and taking care of the children. In other cases, there are those who do not have a choice but to work because they are either single parents or their husbands’ paycheck cannot compensate for their expenses. In the Philippines, that is mostly the situation. The mother is required to help the father in terms of the family’s financial needs in order to survive. Through the years, women in our country have become more competitive, competent and highly-skilled. Come to think of it, I believe I know more women who earn better than men. And I salute them.
But then again, I wonder, at the end of the day when you have four growing kids, would you choose career over being a full-time housewife? Of course like I said, there are those who do not have a choice. If the mother doesn’t work, their children cannot go to school. But what about those who do not encounter the same problems? If the father’s
earnings are actually enough to get by? I had a short conversation with my husband’s aunt the other day, she said, “Michelle, if you’re able to fit your way of life into Don’s salary, do so. Instead of leaving your kids to a nanny just because you feel that you also need to work.” She even said that, “money can be earned in a different time, but the time you will lose watching your children grow up is priceless.” True enough. Right then and there I realized, she’s right. Weeks before she talked to me I was so worried about looking for a job, when to start, how much to earn, who’s going to take care of the kids… I wasn’t happy. It felt so wrong not being able to spend the same amount of time with my kids now once I start working. I may get a job at an office with an 8-5pm schedule, Mondays through Saturdays. In the morning I will be in a hurry. At night I will be too tired to take care of them. And the salary I get will mostly go to paying my nanny, the laundry and the like. Worst of all, my kids will be spending most of their toddler years (which I believe is the MOST important), with a nanny. The nanny will be the one to comfort them when they cry, not me. The nanny will teach them their ABCs. The nanny will know what’s their favorite food and how to make them laugh. And so it hit me. That is not the mother I want to be. My own mother (a single parent) used to tell me that I should NEVER rely on a man to provide anything for me. I will be at the losing end. I should have my own money, my own accomplishments. I firmly believed in that. But now that I do have my own family, I guess there are time when what we believed in doesn’t make sense anymore. We all make sacrifices. And at this point, I know I can sacrifice having a career or my personal achievements for my children’s sake. That is not being on the losing end, right? That is being completely selfless.
I am not saying that I will never work at all. I will have my time. Maybe I’m just trying to analyze my priorities at this time in my life. Chances may be small if I work later on because I got older already. But it is a risk I am willing to take. Besides, I think it’s true that good things come to those who are resourceful enough. Just recently I tried to get side projects from jobs offered online. It is not much. But it will help. And I will be doing something productive and worthwhile. It is amazing how perfect this can be for
people like me–mothers, housewives, even those with disabilities. No discriminations. Who knows, I might just get lucky and do this on a full-time base.
Being a housewife is not always “all that boring” and going over the same old routine. It is the noblest job in the world. And sometimes, it can even be extra fun.